This is Day 2 of the writing prompts on Sue at Sizzling Toward 60 & Beyond’s advent calendar. Today we are to examine and celebrate friendships, and come up with small ways to connect with our friends.
While I have pared down on social engagements, friendship are still an important part of my life. I have two friends who have moved from Michigan to Texas, many friends from my yoga class and Iliana’s special needs activities, and online friends whom I have met through blogging.
First, here are some ways that I connect with my friends:
1. Through Texting
While I am no longer on Facebook, I do connect with a number of friends through text. The nature of the interactions varies from friend to friend. I have a couple of friends where we will share random thoughts, a few days a week. With other friends, it has been more down-to-business. Texting is great for keeping in touch with the friends that I would like to see more, but it hasn’t been feasible in our schedule.
2. Coffee, Coffee, Coffee!
The coffee (or wine!) date is a wonderful thing. I could write a whole blog post on this topic. It can be as long or as short as you want it, and there are no hurt feelings if you have to cut it short one day. Getting together for coffee has been the backbone of most of my friendships.
There was the friend who asked me to coffee as a peace gesture, after she had set a (very necessary, in hindsight) boundary with me.
There was the friend who asked me to coffee “or something stronger” after she saw that I was having a horrible day at work. She ended up being a strong ally last year.
There have been the coffee and lunch dates with my friend who recently moved here from Michigan, where we catch up amidst the craziness.
3. In the Moment Conversations
I have had more intimate conversations with friends in the parking lot after yoga class, or even while we are still in the studio. Some of the most needed interactions seem to happen impromptu.
4. The Marina Wine Evening
Sometimes I will be walking back from the bath house, and a neighbor will invite us over to share a glass of wine. Usually pizza is ordered, or a cheese tray appears. And then I go out for more wine. Our marina friends come and go, so our interactions are always in the moment.
My Friendship Goals
So how would I like to improve my friendships in the new year? Here are some goals that I have:
- Meet up with all of my close friends at least once a month.
- Respond to texts within 24 hours.
- Do more to foster community within the marina (ie setting up a bonfire).
- Reconnect with my special needs parent friends.
- Possibly re-establish a Facebook account, being very selective with people I add as friends.
So Now It’s Your Turn
How do you plan to reconnect with your friends during and after the holidays?